Success is not something that you have to go out and find. It’s something that you have to work for and you have all the tools necessary within yourself to enable you to succeed. So start using the tools that you have been gifted. Will it always be easy, no. Will it be difficult at times, yes. Will it be worth it, you bet it will! Remember keep going, never quit.
We are often moved by those who win in the face of adversity. There is usually a common denominator in their stories: A Growth Mindset.
What does it take to have a growth mindset?
Elements of a Growth Mindset
Chances are YOU’VE had moments in your past where you’ve excelled in the face of challenges. I love to think that our greatest moments are still coming!
What have you not accomplished that still haunts you? Maybe it’s mindset that’s holding you back!
Your journey is not always going to be smooth. There will be times that you’ll be challenged. You will come across obstacles that perhaps are a little more of a struggle than a previous one. With each one take the time that you need to learn the lesson in order to grow and move forward. Sometimes it’s is a lot smaller than we perceive it to be. Don’t look so hard for the lesson take a step back and analyze what lies ahead of you. Take a look at it from a different perspective. You just might find the lesson to be learned is a lot simpler than what you realized.
“Every day may not be good, but there is something good in every day.” This is so true. And if you focus your thoughts on the bit of good that happened instead of the bad, you’ll feel better, grateful and stronger in the day ahead.
~Vicki Freed
DEPRESSION TIPS:
Shower. Not a bath, a shower. Use water as hot or cold as you like. You don’t even need to wash. Just get in under the water and let it run over you for a while. Sit on the floor if you need to.
Moisturize everything. Use whatever lotion you like that makes you smell yummy? Use whatever you want, and use it all over your entire dermis.
Put on clean, comfortable clothes. Put on your favorite underwear. Those ridiculous boxers you bought last Christmas with candy cane hearts on the butt? Put them on.
Drink cold water. Use ice. If you want, add some mint or lemon for an extra boost.
Clean something. Doesn’t have to be anything big. Organize one drawer of a desk. Wash five dirty dishes. Do a load of laundry. Scrub the bathroom sink. Pick up 30 things and put them away.
Blast music. Listen to something upbeat. Blast something that’s got lots of energy. Sing to it, dance to it, even if you suck at both but no one is watching so just have fun.
Make food. Don’t just grab a granola bar to munch. Take the time and make food. Even if it’s ramen. Add something special to it, like a soft boiled egg or some veggies. Prepare food, it tastes way better, and you’ll feel like you accomplished something.
Make something. Write a short story or a poem, draw a picture, color a picture, fold origami, crochet or knit, sculpt something out of clay, anything artistic. Even if you don’t think you’re good at it. Create.
Go outside. Take a walk. Sit in the grass. Look at the clouds. Smell flowers. Play in the snow. Put your hands in the dirt and feel the soil against your skin. Make a snow angel or go sledding.Throw snowballs.
Call someone. Call a loved one, a friend, a family member, call a chat service if you have no one else to call.
Talk to a stranger on the street. Have a conversation and listen to someone’s voice. If you can’t bring yourself to call, text or email or whatever, just have some social interaction with another person. Even if you don’t say much, listen to them. It helps.
Cuddle your pets if you have them/can cuddle them. Borrow a doggie to play with. Take pictures of them. Talk to them. Tell them how you feel, about your favorite movie, a new game coming out, anything.
These tips may seem small or silly to some, but this list helps keeps people alive.
Things to consider:
At your absolute best you won’t be good enough for the wrong people. But at your worst, you’ll still be worth it to the right ones. Remember that. Keep holding on.
In case nobody has told you today I love you and you are worth your weight and then some in gold, so be kind to yourself and most of all keep pushing on!
And, finally, find something to be grateful for!
Many Life Coaches teach various techniques on starting your day off with the proper mindset. Here’s an easy concept that’s easy to remember, using the acronym BE GREAT.
B – Breathe
Take a few deep breaths to get your blood circulating)
E – Energy
Get moving early in the day. Morning stretches, a walk or workout first thing make for a great day!
G – Gratitude
Reflection on our blessings can change how you view things
R – Read
A great suggestion: “The Success Principles” by Jack Canfield
E – Educate
Resources like this page or my YouTube channel serve as easy and ways to grow and stretch our minds for greater benefit
A – Affirmations
Saying positive statements daily, in the mirror, can build your self esteem
T – To Do
Take action that will lead towards your goals. What are the biggest actions to help you reach those goals?
Just one more way to prime you for setting those 2024 goals! More to come!
1. Never shake a man’s hand sitting down.
2. Don’t enter a pool by the stairs.
3. The man at the BBQ Grill is the closest thing to a king.
4. In a negotiation, never take the first offer.
5. Request the late check-out.
6. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.
7. Hold your heroes to a higher standard.
8. Return a borrowed car with a full tank of gas.
9. Play with passion or don’t play at all.
10. Always protect your siblings.
11. Don’t let a wishbone grow where a backbone should be.
12. If you need music on the beach, you’re missing the point.
13. Carry two handkerchiefs. The one in your back pocket is for you. The one in your breast pocket is for her.
14. You marry the girl, you marry her family.
15. Be like a duck. Remain calm on the surface and paddle like crazy underneath.
16. Experience the serenity of traveling alone.
17. Never be afraid to ask out the best looking girl in the room.
18. Never turn down a breath mint.
19. A sport coat is worth 1000 words.
20. Try writing your own eulogy. Never stop revising.
21. Stand on principle.
22. Eat lunch with the new kid.
23. After writing an angry email, read it carefully. Then delete it.
24. Ask your mom to play. She won’t let you win.
25. Manners maketh the man.
26. Give credit. Take the blame.
27. Stand up to Bullies. Protect those bullied.
28. Write down your dreams.
29. Remember at times the rain must fall for us to appreciate the sun.
30. Be confident and humble at the same time.
31. Be the bridge builder.
32. If ever in doubt, remember whose Child you are and REFUSE to just be ordinary
I’m reminded of this daily by a great member of my coaching group. It will boost your mental and emotional health. What healthy journey are you on today?
1. Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call, presume they have something important to attend to;
2. Return money that you have borrowed even before the person that borrowed you remember or ask for it. It shows your integrity and character. Same goes with umbrellas, pens and lunch boxes.
3. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is giving you a lunch/dinner.
4. Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids’ or ‘Why didn’t you buy a house?’ Or why don’t you buy a car? For God’s sake it isn’t your problem;
5. Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public;
6. If you take a taxi with a friend and he/she pays now, try paying next time;
7. Respect different shades of opinions. Remember what’s 6 to you will appear 9 to someone facing you. Besides, second opinion is good for an alternative;
8. Never interrupt people talking. Allow them to pour it out. As they say, hear them all and filter them all;
9. If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again. It encourages one to do more and it shows how appreciative you’re;
10. Say “thank you” when someone is helping you.
11. Praise publicly. Criticize privately;
12. There’s almost never a reason to comment on someone’s weight. Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they want to talk about losing weight, they will.
13. When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next;
14. If a colleague tells you they have a doctors’ appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say “I hope you’re okay”. Don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness. If they want you to know, they’ll do so without your inquisitiveness;
15. Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed at how rude you can treat someone below you but people will notice if you treat them with respect;
16. If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at your phone is rude;
17. Never give advice until you’re asked;
18. When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age and salary;
19. Mind your business unless anything involves you directly – just stay out of it;
20. Remove your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect. Moreso, eye contact is as important as your speech; and
21. Never talk about your riches in the midst of the poor. Similarly, don’t talk about your children in the midst of the barren.
22.After reading a good message try to say “Thanks for the message”
APPRECIATION remains the easiest way of getting what you don’t have!
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